Natural selection...

I've spent a good portion of my life worrying, trying to solve other peoples problems, caring about whether other someone would approve of my decisions, thinking about "Will I get something wrong or are you sure that's right", what should I do next, look what so and so did to me, or does chicken contain arsenic and I am going to get cancer and fuck arsenic!, and other bullshit like that. And then something happened. I had a life changing event… or series of events rather. You know those times when one trauma happens after another and you are holding yourself together but you feel like you can barely breathe? Well, that was happening to me. I never thought about committing suicide. At least not seriously… sometimes I would think "what would happen if I just drove over a cliff right now?" I stopped thinking that when I began to think about baby birds that are born really high, and how its either fly or die. And then I started thinking about nature in general and you see that same model numerous times. Run or get eaten, sink or swim, eat or be eaten, and I am sure you can think of a few more. Now when I thought about driving off of a cliff I could imagine myself moving through the air rather than falling to my demise. I knew it wasn't real but it felt so good to do it. It was something so strange to my mind that it would instantly make me stop thinking about it all together. You can't fly, cars don't have wings, there is no way you should be flying right now, where are you going, how are you doing that, what is wrong with this picture, wow look at that sunset… and then as soon as I have some accepting comment regarding my new found ability to fly in my mind and I feel like anything can happen, the dream is over. Thoughts are weird aren't they! Looking back at it I realized that even when I thought about smacking into the ground really hard my mind would react the same way. I realized that whether I was thinking I would die or live on didn't matter as much as how I woke myself up.

The mind has a mind of its own...

The mind that has a personal history with respectful authority is appropriately passive. It can easily filter through credible sources so that its integrity is likely to be protected. It knows when to trust and when to move on. It is passive for entertainment, learning, and appropriate purposes. It has extreme respect for its own innate authority, which allows it to make accurate predictions about whether an influence is helpful or unhelpful. This type of mind may become a thrill seeker and thrives from adrenaline and new experiences. A personal history with a careless authority is likely to keep the mind in an active role in order to survive. It is not as adventurous as the prior mind and it is nearly always investigating the next possible catastrophe. It is similar to having only one guard to stay on the lookout for intruders. This guard will be overworked and less efficient as time goes by which will make it easier for an invasion. Alternating between an active and passive mind is not an option if the mind would like to maintain a sense of wellbeing. Knowing when to take an active/passive role is vital for survival. It grants safe access to resources beyond current boundaries. This type of mind will benefit from becoming more careful and less predictive. It should not become obsessed with preventing disaster but rather learn how to respond to it appropriately. After these two steps are established this mind may feel secure enough to engage in more passive activities where If the passive mind was exposed to a controlling active authority, it may have cultivated a permeating belief of weakness. The passivity becomes a survival mechanism and the mind is tricked into believing that it’s own activity is useless and that it must align itself with a more dominant mind. This is similar to the domestication of a wild animal. It once being self-reliant has been manipulated into thinking that it needs help in order to survive. Its question is no longer how will I feed myself but who will feed me. A minds personal history with an absent active authority will lead it to be actively passive. This mind has an insatiable appetite for validation and can make other people feel invisible. A conversation with this mind is one sided and repetitive. It lacks the capacity to engage its own activity with another active mind. It has learned to do everything itself hoping to impress or gain acceptance. Because the bond with an active mind was never established this mind lacks awareness of when a bond exists. The innate authority is the only authority it has ever known which may render it insensitive to another minds own innate reality. It is a constant presenter. This mind is not motivated by praise or recognition. In order to operate this mind needs an ample amount of support and disapproval. Too much support will lead to laziness and too much disapproval will lead to depression. In order to evolve, this mind must recognize its self-absorbed impulses and learn to become visible by actively engaging in another person’s reality. A personal history where the mind learned to become active or passive respectively will become passive when exposed to a higher rank and active when exposed to a lesser rank. This type of mind is less concerned with credibility and more concerned with title. To them, title is entitlement. This mind tends to be respectful and competitive. While this mind is quite popular, it may benefit by taking extra precautions to reference multiple perspectives as well as its own, when exposed to a higher rank. It’s appreciation for power may make it submissive during times that are ethically incorrect, which make it more susceptible to corruption. Control is a relationship between submission and domination. The dominant party should never abuse the power by making the submissive feel less than or permanently lacking. The submissive should take on that role only for the sake of personal or group progress. An ideal model for this would be a self-defense class. A volunteer is called to play the attacker, who will be put in a headlock and thrown on the ground. An extreme amount of care is taken to keep the volunteer safe. This is how the exchange of power should be taken place however not everyone has learned to play fair. Never volunteer for hypnosis unless you are sure that the person has your best interest in mind. If you have any doubt that you will be taken advantage of, choose to disengage. If you are excited to see what it feels like to be hypnotized and you are comfortable with yourself, you will get much joy out of the whole experience. The mind’s personal history does not define its outcomes but rather creates its probabilities. The likeliness that a mind will behave in a certain way given exposure to specific variables creates likeliness not certainty. The uncertainty is dictated by free will and chance. Free will allows room for planning desired outcomes. Chance allows room for new perceptions. Since perception dictates the way the mind relates to it’s self and it’s world, changing perception or the relative point of view will inherently alter the way the mind functions in reality. Let’s say someone gets fired from his job. He heads home feeling lost and disappointed. On his way home his mother calls. She begins to console him because she is sorry for his loss and gives him her best advice, which just leaves him feeling sad. She passes the phone to his dad and his dad begins to fill his mind with self-doubt by asking him what he could have done better and that hopefully he will learn from his mistakes. He gets home and his roommate tells him they need to go out for drinks and forget about it. At the bar someone meets a girl who also lost her job that day but she was talking about it as though she had been given a promotion. She said that the termination worked out for her because rather than seeing it as a loss, she saw it as an opportunity. She liked the feeling of discomfort because it motivated her to do the things she had been putting off when she was in her former career. She said the only reason why her abilities could have been less than amazing was the fact that her heart wasn’t in it and that she was performing much better now that she had time to pursue her dreams. Someone would probably have a hard time finding a new job or passion because his mind had been in a depressive state, which lacks contemplation of a probable desirable outcome. He is engaged in a dysfunctional reality. The probability of someone finding a new job or pursuing a passion while depressed, is lower than that of someone who is searching while feeling fulfilled. The depressed mind has lower levels of concentration and memory than an average mind. When trying to get hired this mind will come off as unauthentic or non-genuine as they struggle to be more positive. The depressed mind is less than persuasive as it tries to be convincing. In the story the reality was the same between someone and the girl. The alternate reality that the girl represents is an example of a functional reality. She made assumptions based on what she wanted to do next rather than what she was trying to avoid. She honored her skillset and her life experience by relating her lack of performance with her dissatisfaction on the job rather than assuming that there was something inherently wrong with herself. She predicted a better future for herself and her happiness was authentic. The mind that is passionate is also creative which is one of the best resources that can be applied to uncertainty. Meeting the girl is a chance for someone to change his perspective and if he uses his free will his probabilities will be altered and he will be more likely to succeed. This brings me to a very important point. The mind should never use what it loves to abuse itself. The mind should always use what it loves to invent itself. If the mind values respect, it should have multiple outlets for experiencing respect. If the mind values relationships, it should have a nice variety of people with whom it relates to and for different purposes. If the mind values attention have it will have multiple types of healthy relationships. When the mind puts too much reliance on any one thing it creates a weak bond that is easily severed. This is the physical manifestation of settling. It takes too much effort and time to recreate from nothing. When the mind gives itself more channels for getting what it wants, it always has something comparable to fall back on.

Someone died...

A girl’s friend was murdered and at first she couldn’t help but be upset. She felt guilty because she wasn’t going to make it to his funeral. She spoke with someone who helped her realize that her friend would never want to be the source of her unhappiness and not going to the funeral didn’t mean that she loved him or missed him any less than anyone who was going. She decided that instead of continuing to be sad that she was going to do something special to honor him and their friendship out of respect for him. She knew that in the end he would be happy if she was happy. What options do we have when someone dies?

Appearances are just that...

This is just to stir up your mind. Please interact with it's thoughts by leaving a comment.... Figments are things that exist only in the imagination while appearing real to the mind. Appearance is not merely physical. It can be spiritually apparent, and by that I mean what is felt. One man’s chocolate cake is another man’s cheesecake. It is hard to remember that someone else may have a contrasting feeling to yours when your thoughts and sensations seem to be relevant to fact. Within a given situation there are too many variable factors to make one individual’s perspective more correct than another persons. In most cases, both parties’ perspective should have equal weigh. Rather than trying to change someone else’s perspective, understand it. When you can see both sides of the coin, you can make better decisions for yourself. Avoid making decisions for someone else. This will only end up in turmoil at some point in time. Truth and honesty deviate in that honesty is just an opinion. Truth is a measure. Honesty is as close to truth as alone is close to being by yourself. Both are concepts worth differentiating in your mind. How is truth different than honesty for you? What is figment? What is reality?